The road to DIVORCE – a potential tornado”
“Eik dafa kisi rishte mei talaq ki baat chirr jaye tou wo phir hoti hi hoti hai”
I never really recognized this until I began to understand typical human nature to attract intensity, the thrill in the sensation, a “kick” in the moment of charm as life grows from being alive to being an agent of change, freedom and access for a person.
There is a reason why I call the road to divorce a Tornado. Marriage is a commitment of love, respect and reliance “exclusively” between two people. Initially and at some other point of time, situation and circumstances when it is an effort to see and seek each other in the image of each other, it is vulnerable to becoming an institution that enfolds relations from both ends.
It is not Ego, it is not recognition, it is about acceptance, levy, reliance, that a person seek in it. A very consuming part of oneself to provide another.
“Miya biwi ka rishta jitna kamzoor hota hai utna kacha bhi hota hai”
“Jewan sathi eik dusre ke emaan ke lehaz sai shareke hote hain” a really cool quotation by someone awesome.
Unfortunately, as it becomes or in the process of institutionalization, it’s particular “substance” passes on across the relations, persons and spaces that it enfolds.
The guy relies on his sister, the girl on his mother, sister in law recognises only a brotherly figure by being the only daughter of her parents, while the mother equally shares the weakness and charm of spoiling a male child. Not merely PULLING personalities and relations but rather folding people around a VECTOR like tape where the outer layer binds the inner one.
“the vector” A force of cleansing the tarnish on compromised needs and denied promises, affection and acceptance.
The bigger the tornado the more potential it has. layer. As it is mobilized towards an end; all involved relationships are perturbed, come under the risk of being wrecked or becoming destructive and evil.
Now, I have this concept in place so let me share few important advise/warnings/prohibitions about marriage.
– Try to avoid talking about it to the couple
– if you can, avoid being a part of this affair
– Do not try to enquire about how far it has progressed
Tornado engulfs any and all weak in its way.
It is a karma – you support,involve in,discuss or instigate a divorce or a conflict between a couple, it “will” come to your relations and affinites.
YES this is real and in case you make this mistake, this is considered a serious offense, and in some religion, a sin and those religions go as far as to dictate a compensation to be offered to God in order to avoid its karma such as – feed a deserving for three months/days or fast for three months/days and promise to avoid it in future.
***However, having said that, by no means a divorce just itself is not something VERY bad. The whole point is to avoid and minimize conflict, sufferings and to communicate a need in the form of a warning. It is one of the last solutions highly advised for people who have not been able to resolve their recurrent conflicts peacefully and involuntarily.